Tannen vs. Graff

Both Tannen and Graff's essays argues the same point.  Both essays explained that the term "arguing" is usually taken the wrong way.   When people argue, they refer to it as a battle and try to "win" the argument.  When the only objective os arguing is winning and disproving any other ideas or points of view, than that argument is pointless.  The essays taught me that when I argue, I should listen to and consider the points of view of others, instead of just disregarding them, and "winning" the argument.   Both Tannen and Graff effectively got their points and ideas across, but I liked Tannen's better because his style of writing was more interesting and funny.